I soon discovered that I had to figure out what kind of lesbian I was going to be. It was obvious to me almost immediately that I was very different from most other girls. I didn’t really fit into either role of ‘butch’ or ‘femme.’ I liked wearing makeup and dresses and heels, but I also liked to wear engineer’s boots and black tank tops.

Portia de Rossi, in her memoir Unbearable Lightness, out Nov. 2.